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I am convinced that praising your spouse in public is one of the
most important investments you can make—in your family and in your leadership.
This is important for at least five reasons:
- You get more of what you affirm. Have you ever noticed that when someone praises you,
you want to repeat the behavior that caused it? This is just human nature.
It can be a form of manipulation if it isn’t genuine. But it can be a
powerful way to motivate others when it is authentic.
- Affirmation shifts your attitude toward your spouse. Words are powerful tools. They can create, or they can
destroy. They can build up, or they can tear down. I believe most people
have a drive to align their actions—and their attitudes—with their words.
If you start speaking well of someone, you start believing what you say.
- Affirmation helps strengthen your spouse’s best
qualities. Encouragement is also a
powerful force for good. All of us need positive reinforcement. This is
why when we are losing weight and people notice, it gives us the strength
to stick with the program. This is true in every area of life.
- Affirmation wards off the temptation of adultery. When others see you are happily married, they are less
likely to proposition you. It’s like a hedge that protects your marriage
from would-be predators. You simply stop being a target.
- Affirmation provides a model to those you lead. To be a truly effective leader, you must lead
yourself, and then you must lead your family. Your marriage is a powerful
visual of how you treat the people you value the most. When you speak
highly of your spouse, your followers are more likely to trust you. It
takes your leadership to another level.
Affirming your spouse in public is an investment that pays big
leadership dividends. In a world where fewer and fewer marriages last, it can
be a difference-maker.
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